21 July 2008

Martha Blogs Her Visit to the NY DMV

One might ask, Why?, but then one may as well ask, Why not?

 

As Martha would say, Come see!

 

(Can you believe they sell pens at the DMV for $.25 so you can fill out their forms!?) 

 

 

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20 July 2008

Websites with Narrow Focus, X

In a continuing series ...

 

 

I've been saving them up for this post.

 

It's Lovely! I'll Take It!, "a collection of poorly chosen photos from real estate listings. With love." And comments. Don't miss it.

 

potentially nervous:  "The world's going to hell. Here are some bunny photos."

 

How I Spent My Stimulus. Tell your story.

 

Kim's Page o' Chopsticks. Chopstick wrappers, actually. (Thanks, Mike.)

 

 

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18 July 2008

Goose + Man Story

In the Boston Globe, a 5-page piece by Vicki Constantine Croke about making tough veterinary care decisions features a lovely story about Mark Podlaseck and his goose with cancer, Boswell, who seems to like The Iliad.

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13 July 2008

Solutions: Politics (Notes from Status Anxiety)

Notes from Alain de Botton's Status Anxiety (2004).  The book generally aligns with mimetic theory and Girardian ideas; I've added a G near comments that seem to do so particularly.

 

This is the ninth post on this topic; the first is here.

 

 

PART II: Solutions

CHAPTER 3 - POLITICS

 

"Every society holds certain groups of people in high esteem while condemning or ignoring others, whether on the basis of their skills, accent, temperament, gender, physical attributes, ancestry, religion or skin colour. Yet such arbitrary and subjective criteria for success and failure are far from permanent or universal." G    It's the job of the status quo to make them seem absolutely universal and permanent.

 

Rather eccentric timeline: of who and what has been held in high status:

400 BC Sparta: Soldiers: Men, aggressive, vigorously bisexual, not family men, not business men.

Western Europe 476-1096: Saints: followers of Jesus Christ, shunning of material goods, suppression of sexual feelings, extreme modesty.

Western Europe 1096-1500 (after first Crusade): Knights: Wealthy, killed people and animals. Lovers, poets. Prized virgins. Loved money but not from trade, only from land.

England 1750-1890: Gentlemen: Dancing, dabblers, not merchants. Supposed to like families but OK to have mistresses. Cultivation of languid elegance. Hair. Women seen as taller children.

Brasil, 1600-1960 (Cubeo tribe): Men who spoke little, did not dance or play a part in raising children, and were good at killing jaguars. High status - hunters; low status - fishermen. Shameful to even be seen helping wife make a root-based meal.

London, Sydney, New York, LA, 2004: Anyone who can accumulate money, power and renown through their own accomplishments in some sector of the commercial world. Because culture is now seen to be meritocratic, financial achievements are understood to be deserved. The ability to accumulate wealth is proof of creativity, stamina, intelligence. Other virtues, like godliness and humility, don't matter much.

 

By what principles is status distributed?: 

(1) by threatening and bullying 

(2) by defending others (strength, patronage, control of resources, etc.). Where safety is in short supply, soldiers and knights are celebrated. Where the livelihood of the majority depends on trade and high-tech, entrepreneurs and scientists are celebrated.  

(3) by impressing others with goodness, talent, skill or wisdom (saints, European footballers)

(4) by appealing to conscience or sense of decency of peers - by moral authority. 

 

Ideals are not cast in stone; the process by which they alter is politics. 

 

For us in the western world now, prosperity = worthiness. And poverty = moral deficiency. Money is ethical. This equation of prosperity and worthiness seems "natural" to us but it only came into being as "the way it is" in the mid-1800s. 

 

Thorstein Veblen's Theory of the Leisure Class (1899): "Wealth has become the conventional basis of esteem." Material goods confer honour (hence conspicuous consumption, to give evidence to one and all of one's 'true' worth).

 

Some have fought the idea of meritocracy, the idea that wealth = virtue, including most notable John Ruskin, and also  George Bernard Shaw, Michel de Montaigne. 

 

Modern life also posits a connection between making money and being happy. This connection rests on three assumptions:

(1) that we know what we need to be happy and so we know what careers and projects will help us flourish as humans. Rousseau refutes this (in Discourse on the Origin of Inequality, 1754):  We are actually, he says, "dangerously inept at deciphering our own needs. Our souls rarely articulate what they must have in order to be fulfilled, and when they manage to mumble something, their requests are likely to be misfounded or contradictory .... Our minds are susceptible to the influence of external voices telling us what we require to be satisfied...."   G 

(2) that all of the occupational possibilities and consumer goods available to us are actually a helpful array that's capable of satisfying our essential needs.

(3) that the more money we have, the more goods and services we can afford, which increases our odds of happiness.

 

(de Botton writes more about this here: "Americans Were the First People to Worship Work"

 

Current Events Tie-In: "Will economic growth make Americans happier?" (23 June 2008, Chicago Tribune

 

Some posit, in contrast to the money-happiness connection, that those who live in a "natural state" understand themselves much better. (Part of the 'noble savage' idea) E.g., the native Americans, who lived with little yet were reputed to be content. But within only a few decades of the arrival of the first Europeans, what came to matter to the Indians was the amassing of weapons, jewellery and whiskey. This didn't happen spontaneously; the European traders deliberately sought to foster desires in Indians to motivate them to provide animal pelts for the European market.

 

In 1690, the English naturalist and minister John Banister noted that the Indians of Hudson Bay area had been successfully tempted by traders to want "many things which they had not wanted before."  As the volume of trade increased, suicide rates and alcoholism also rose, fracturing communities. Indian leaders called on tribes to renounce their addiction to European luxuries.

 

Defenders of commercial society argue that no one forces anyone to buy anything. Rousseau emphasised how strongly predisposed humans are to listen to others' suggestions about how to think and what to value.  G  

 

Advertisers et al. actually insist that their trades are ineffective because the population is so independent-minded. This is not shown to be true, based on what people once said were luxuries that they quickly came to see as necessities:

 

Percentage of Americans who say these are necessities: 

2nd car in 1970: 20% / 2nd car in 2000: 59%

dishwasher in 1970: 8% / dishwasher in 2000: 44%

A/C in car in 1970:  11% / A/C in car in 2000:  65%

A/C in home in 1970: 22% / A/C in home in 2000: 70%

more than one telephone in 1970: 2%  / more than one telephone in 2000: 78%

 

(Salon article about marketing -- "commercial persuasion industry" -- and consumerism: We Are What We Buy: "'We can talk all we want about being brand-proof ... but our behavior tells a different story.'")

 

"Life seems to be a process of replacing one anxiety with another and substituting one desire for another" and we're not aware of it. G   We think achievements and acquisitions will satisfy us but they don't. Not only can we not stop envying, but we envy the wrong things!

 

John Ruskin excoriated 19th-century Britons for being wealth-obsessed. He said he was, too, but he was obsessed by being wealthy in kindness, curiosity, sensitivity, humility, godliness, and intelligence -- which in the aggregate he called "life."

 

In his conception, the wealthiest Britons would not be automatically merchants or landowners but rather those who felt the keenest wonder gazing at the stars or who were best able to alleviate the suffering of others. (in Unto This Last

 

 

Ideology and Political Change 

 

Lots of ideas have been seen as so immutable as to be 'natural', e.g.,:

  • men's rule over women (Earl Percy, 1873)
  • European people are better than Africans (Lord Cromer, 1911)
  • women don't have sexual feeling (Sir William Acton, 1857)
  • Africans are naturally subordinate to whites (Alexander Stephens, 1861)


Dominant beliefs are at great pains to suggest that they are no more alterable than the orbits of the sun. They are ideological -- "a statement that subtly promotes a bias while pretending to be perfectly neutral." The ruling ideas of every age are those of the ruling class; but they can't seem to rule too forcefully. The ideas have to seem natural and unforced, just "the way it is."

 

Ideology, like a colourless, odorless gas, is pervasive and yet unnoticed as what it is. It makes light of its perhaps unjust or illogical take on the world and meekly implies that it's only presenting age-old truths.

 

"When institutions and ideas are held to be 'natural,' responsibility for whatever suffering they cause must necessarily either belong to no specific agent or else to the injured parties themselves." 

 

Virginia Woolf, when not allowed into a college library in England on the basis of being female, became sceptical of the feminine role model she grew up with, the image of a woman who was always charming and utterly unselfish. The model woman sacrificed herself daily. She took the worst piece of meat, the most uncomfortable seat, etc. "She was so constituted that she would never have a mind or wish of her own, but prefer to sympathise always with the minds and wishes of others."

 

"The enthusiasm for materialism, entrepreneurship and meritocracy that saturates the newspapers and television schedules of our own day reflects nothing more complex than the interests of those in charge of the system by which the majority earn their living."

 

 

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10 July 2008

Causes: Dependence (Notes from Status Anxiety)

Notes from Alain de Botton's Status Anxiety (2004). This is the sixth post on this topic; the first is here.

 

 

CHAPTER 5 - DEPENDENCE

 

Status, historically, was tied to what one was at birth, not what one achieved in one's lifetime. [Can you imagine that this is a new concept? It seems so wholly part of what one seems to know.]  Modern societies try to reverse this, to make rank dependent only on achievement -- usually, financial achievement.

 

The most evident trait of the struggle to achieve status now is uncertainty.

 

de Button lists five unpredictable elements:

 

(1) talent - it could desert us or we could find we never really had it

(2) luck - no longer as acceptable to point to as a factor, no moody gods to blame these days. The world is "enamored of rational control."

(3) dependence on an employer (q.v., Machiavelli, Guicciardini, La Rochefoucauld, La Bruyère, et al.)

(4) dependence on an employer's profitability 

(5) dependence on the global economy

 

Workers' status is never guaranteed, is always dependent on their own performance and on factors that are outside of their control.

 

 

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09 July 2008

Causes: Meritocracy (Notes from Status Anxiety)

Notes from Alain de Botton's Status Anxiety (2004). This is the fourth post on this topic; the first is here.

 

 

CHAPTER 3 - MERITOCRACY

 

Explanations for why one might be poor and what one's value to society is have grown "notably more punitive and emotionally awkward in the modern era."

 

From AD 30 to the latter part of the 20th century, there have been three stories for the "lowest in Western societies" that were consoling:

 

(1) The poor are not responsible for their condition and are the most useful members of society.  This is the medieval and pre-modern story. God and/or the natural order are responsible for societal position. In this story, there's a sense of mutual dependence among the classes, and the lowest classes are acknowledged for making life easier for the upper classes.

 

(2) Low status has no moral connotation. Per Scripture. Neither wealth nor poverty are an accurate index of moral worth. Jesus was poor and good. If anything, poverty was good because it led to the recognition of one's dependence on God.

 

(3) The rich are sinful and corrupt and owe their wealth to the robbery of the poor. 1754-1989. Rousseau, Marx (1887), Engels (1845)

 

These weren't the only stories, but they were widely credited.

 

Beginning around the middle of the 18th century, 3 more troubling stories (if you were poor) began to form:

 

(1) The rich are the useful ones. Bernard Mandeville's The Fable of the Bees (1723) is the written origin of this story, which says that the rich contribute more to society because their spending provides employment for everyone under them. The impact of the rich on others is the most beneficial even if their intentions and motivations are not beneficent. (To those of us in the 21st century, this 'fable' seems to have been always with us, but it's a relatively new take on things!)  Hume repeats this idea in 1752, and Adam Smith seals the deal in 1759: "The whole of civilisation, and the welfare of all societies" depended on people's desire and ability to accumulate unneeded capital and show off their wealth. The greedier they are, the better for all.

 

(2) Status does have moral connotations. Seen in Thomas Paine (The Rights of Man), Napoleon, Carlyle -- all against hereditary aristocracy and for meritocracy, i.e., an aristocracy of talent. Inequality is OK so long as there is equality of opportunity (e.g., in education). This led to public schools, SAT tests (scientifically proven meritocratic standard - could rank people by their "real worth"), and the 1946 Universal Declaration of Human Rights which required compulsory education in the countries that signed on. Also led to equal opportunity in the workplace (1961, Kennedy) and competitive entrance exams (1870, Britain). 

 

Now worldly position was obviously related to inner qualities: "Faith in an increasingly reliable connection between merit and worldly success in turn endowed money with a new moral quality." The rich were not only wealthier; they were plain better.

 

Christianity in the U.S. revised its thinking: now to possess riches in this world was evidence that one was deserving. The Rev. Thomas P. Hunt's The Book of Wealth: In Which it is Proved from the Bible that it is the Duty of Every Man to Become Rich (1836), was a bestseller.  More on this connection between moral goodness and prosperity here at Talking Pentecostalism. 

 

(3) The poor are sinful and corrupt and owe their poverty to their own stupidity. The poor were no longer seen as unfortunate. Now they were seen as undeserving failures. Poverty became a matter of shame.

 

Social Darwinism -- the weak are nature's mistakes and should be allowed to perish. Herbert Spencer in Social Statics: or, The Conditions Essential to Human Happiness Specified, and the First of Them Developed (1851) argued that biology is opposed to charity. Andrew Carnegie, in his autobiography, said that "Those worthy of assistance, except in rare cases, seldom require assistance. The really valuable men of the race never do."

 

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Current Events Tie-In: Extremely wealthy Americans evoke sense of awe in their wealthy psychiatrists: "Dr. [Byram] Karasu acknowledged that he was not immune from taking satisfaction in the success and fame of his patients. 'Wealthy people bring about a degree of awe, even in their therapists sometimes,' he said. 'This is the biggest problem I see in the doctors I supervise. And these are fully practicing doctors, doctors making $400, $500 an hour.'"

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08 July 2008

Shopping Camp at the Mall - Patriotic!

In news related to status anxiety, ruling class ideology, materialism, and creating desires: Marketplace reporter Benjamin Barber lauds shopping camp -- held at a mall, at which girls ages 6-12 visit stores to learn how to accessorize outfits -- as patriotic. I'm pretty sure he's being sarcastic ....   More here.  And Jezebel readers have something to say about it, too. 

 

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06 July 2008

Notes from Status Anxiety - The Basics

Just finished Alain de Botton's Status Anxiety (2004), a book I have long wanted to read. Most of it was enlightening; the ending was disappointing. The book generally aligns with mimetic theory and Girardian ideas; I've added a G near comments that seem to do so particularly.

 

THE BASICS

 

Status is position in society, one's value or importance in the eyes of the world. In the west, it's increasingly tied to financial achievement.

 

Consequences of high status: resources, freedom, sense of being cared for, space, time, being thought valuable, comfort.

 

Status is conferred in flattery, laughter, invitations, deference, attention.

 

Status anxiety is the pernicious worry about the danger of failing to conform to ideals of success laid down by society. We're anxious because our self-concept is dependent on what others make of us. G

 

 

Chapter 1, Lovelessness, here. 

Chapter 2, Expectation, here 

Chapter 3, Meritocracy, here

Chapter 4, Snobbery, here. 

Chapter 5, Dependence, here. 

Solutions: Philosophy, here.

Solutions: Art, here.

Solutions: Politics, here.

Solutions: Religion, to come.

Solutions: Bohemia, to come.

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31 May 2008

What I'm Reading Online: We All Need -- or Don't Need -- to Improve!

 

>> at Zen Habits, 12 Practical Steps for Learning to Go With the Flow. A simple list. I like the quotes, especially this one: 'Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.' - Chuang Tzu. I wonder whether the idea of accepting whatever I'm doing is consistent with Christianity, with prayers of confession, etc.

 

>>  from Life 2.0, Follow Your Bliss. The central idea, similar to the quote above, is 'no need for self improvement.'

 

"The central premise behind all the self improvement stuff (although often unseen as it can be oh so subtle) is that there is something wrong with us, something flawed that needs to be improved, something we need to do in order to be happy, healthy, successful and fulfilled.  It is this unexamined assumption, that we can be improved and therefore must be less than perfect, that keeps us in chains ... that reinforces this illusion of brokenness, powerlessness and being a victim-of-circumstances-beyond-our-control, which we see reflected back to us in the world we perceive around us."

 

Instead, this weblog counsels "an alternative to self-improvement, a spiritual path or another kind of seeking.... Vow to do what makes you happy right now and see where that takes you." Ah, but "anything we think we want, we have been conditioned to want," so it's not as easy as it might seem to do what makes us happy.

 

What I can't help thinking is that this plan to "be happy" is self-improvement by another name, with its implication that we're not happy enough already, and that we need to do something about this lack.

 

 >> "Jesus Made Me Puke" by Matt Tabbi in Rolling Stone, about a 3-day "Encounter Weekend" retreat with John Hagee's Cornerstone Church:

 

"The program revolved around a theory that [pastor Philip] Fortenberry quickly introduced us to called 'the wound.' The wound theory was a piece of schlock biblical Freudianism in which everyone had one traumatic event from their childhood that had left a wound. The wound necessarily had been inflicted by another person, and bitterness toward that person had corrupted our spirits and alienated us from God. Here at the retreat we would identify this wound and learn to confront and forgive our transgressors, a process that would leave us cleansed of bitterness and hatred and free to receive the full benefits of Christ.

 

"In the context of the wound theory, Fortenberry's tale suddenly made more sense. Being taken on that eighteen-hole golf trip with the barmaid, and watching his family ditched by Dad, had been his wound. It was a wound, Fortenberry explained, because his father's abandonment had crushed his 'normal.'

 

"'And I was wounded,' he whispered dramatically. 'My dad had ruined my normal!'

 

"The crowd murmured affirmatively, apparently knowing what it was to have a crushed normal."

 

 

>> at Marginal Revolution, How To Choose An Apartment. How much does the actual living space matter, and how much does the location matter? Do we under- or over-invest in one or the other? Interesting anaylsis via comments.  I now live in a house I don't really like, in a location I love. Before this, I lived in a house (including extensive grounds) that I loved in a location I didn't like. I still don't know which is better.

 

 

>> provacateur PJ O'Rourke's "Fairness, Idealism and Other Atrocities," commencement advice. His advice: make money, don't be an idealist (they're bullies), get politically uninvolved (politics is anathema to truth), forget about fairness, be a religious extremist (that is, realise that "using politics to create fairness is a sin"). 

 

About fairness:

"Well, I am here to advocate for unfairness. I've got a 10-year-old at home. She's always saying, 'That's not fair.' When she says this, I say, 'Honey, you're cute. That's not fair. Your family is pretty well off. That's not fair. You were born in America. That's not fair. Darling, you had better pray to God that things don't start getting fair for you.'" 

 

 

>> 25 Things All Women Should Learn to Do Already by the women at Jezebel. Ranges from manual and practical skills like rapid vegetable chopping, masturbation, financial investing, and assembling furniture, to the more abstract realm of truth-telling, and social skills like withholding information, getting angry without being passive-aggressive, and not taking things personally. And of course, there are comments. 

 

>>  "Total Recall … Or At Least the Gist" at Miller-McCune, on the differences between gist and verbatim memory. What interests me here is the hypothesis called 'fuzzy trace theory,'  which "explains how we can 'remember' things that never really happened:"

 

"When an event occurs, verbatim memory records an accurate representation. But even as it is doing so, gist memory begins processing the information and determining how it fits into our existing storehouse of knowledge. Verbatim memories generally die away within a day or two, leaving only the gist memory, which records the event as we interpreted it.  Under certain circumstances, this can produce a phenomenon Reyna and her colleagues refer to as 'phantom recollection.' She calls this 'a powerful form of false alarm' in which gist memory -- designed to look for patterns and fill in perceived gaps -- creates a vivid but illusory image in our mind."  ...

 

"Gist memory allows us to make snap decisions. But life does not always follow familiar patterns, and harm can result when we discard evidence that doesn't fit our assumptions."

 

They note that this 'misremembering' is a very common, ordinary occurence.

 

>> "The Candidate, the Preacher and the Unconscious Mind" by Shankar Vedantam in the WaPo. Central idea: We are biased against people who are in proximity to people we are already biased against. Second idea: We believe that people "from other ethnic, cultural and political groups are quite similar to one another, whereas they know that people from [our] own groups are quite varied."

 

The study he cites is fascinating:

Volunteers in a research experiment see an applicant sitting in a waiting room next to an overweight person, while others see the applicant sitting next to someone of average weight. ... "A variety of experiments have shown that overweight people suffer from discrimination; what [researcher Michelle] Hebl wanted to find out was whether strangers in the vicinity of overweight people would share in such approbation.


"Remarkably, Hebl found that volunteers rated job applicants more negatively when they had been seen seated next to an overweight person than when they were seen seated next to an average weight person. The volunteers had no idea that they were showing not only a prejudice against fat people but also a bias against people who were merely in proximity to overweight people.

"The experiment tells us something about the Obama-Wright controversy. The presidential candidate may have made it clear that the minister does not speak for him, but every time Wright's words are replayed on talk radio and cable TV, they automatically retrieve mental associations in many voters' minds with Obama. Hebl similarly found her volunteers unconsciously made associations even after being explicitly told there was no connection between the job applicants in the waiting room."

 

Similarly, "men and women seen in the company of beautiful partners are perceived as being more attractive than when they are seen in plainer company." But -- "there is some evidence our minds are especially attuned to negative associations."

 

 

>> "The Gospel of Consumption And the better future we left behind" by Jeffrey Kaplan in Orion. The article, with a focused accounting of Kellogg company work-hour policy over the years, is primarily a vision of Americans working and spending less while living comfortably.

 

"Machines can save labor, but only if they go idle when we possess enough of what they can produce. In other words, the machinery offers us an opportunity to work less, an opportunity that as a society we have chosen not to take. Instead, we have allowed the owners of those machines to define their purpose: not reduction of labor, but 'higher productivity'  -- and with it the imperative to consume virtually everything that the machinery can possibly produce. ...

 

"By 1991 the amount of goods and services produced for each hour of labor was double what it had been in 1948. By 2006 that figure had risen another 30 percent. In other words, if as a society we made a collective decision to get by on the amount we produ€ced and consumed seventeen years ago, we could cut back from the standard forty-hour week to 5.3 hours per day -- or 2.7 hours if we were willing to return to the 1948 level.

 

"But we cannot do it as individuals." The marketplace doesn't offer "a choice to work less and consume less. The reason is simple: that choice is at odds with the foundations of the marketplace itself -- at least as it is currently constructed. The men and women who masterminded the creation of the consumerist society understood that theirs was a political undertaking, and it will take a powerful political movement to change course today." 

 

In a sort of rebuttal to PJ O'Rourke's suggestion (above) that democracy might mean having our clothing choices, e.g., determined by the majority (of shoppers, i.e., teen girls), Kaplan notes that Edward Bernays, "one of the founders of the field of public relations and a principal architect of the American Way," decreed that "the choices available in the polling booth are akin to those at the department store; both should consist of a limited set of offerings that are carefully determined by what Bernays called an 'invisible government' of public-relations experts and advertisers working on behalf of business leaders. Bernays claimed that in a 'democratic society' we are and should be 'governed, our minds ...  molded, our tastes formed, our ideas suggested, largely by men we have never heard of.'"

 

 

>>  "Engines of Emotional Pollution"  (continues here) by Steven Stosny, Ph.D., in Psychology Today, posits four mechanisms that "govern most human interactions:" contagion, attunement, negative bias, and reactivity.

 

Contagion for Stosny is "what makes you feel what the rest of the group feels."


Attunement is a type of contagion, or a response to it; it's when we match "the intensity and tone of [our] emotions with those of someone else." It's honouring the boundaries of social convention. Interestingly, "[a]lthough our unconscious sensitivity to others is almost always active when we're not alone, it is not always accurate, i.e., we sometimes misconstrue what other people are feeling. However, we are far more accurate in sensing what others feel than in knowing what they think. This disproportionate accuracy between sensing another's feelings and judging their thinking leads to most of our misunderstandings of one another." We're pretty accurate in knowing another person's feelings but in trying to account for what's behind them, we make wrong assumptions.

 

Negative bias is related to attunement: Our 'negative' emotions influence us more than our positive ones, and we 'tune in' to negative emotions more than we do to positive ones: "So if you come home from work in a fairly good mood and find that your spouse is brooding or upset, attunement will bring him or her up a little and you down a lot. To keep from being 'brought down' by the other's negative mood, many couples attempt to dull their sensitivity to the other's emotional world."

 

Reactivity: is "learned resistance to the unconscious pull of contagion and attunement." It can be obvious -- 'I'm not putting up with your attitude!' or passive, ignoring another's bad mood.

 

From a Girardian perspective, I found this paragraph, which speaks of interdividualism (as opposed to individualism) without naming it, enlightening:

 

"The aspect of reactivity that makes it difficult to see, let alone change, is its illusion of free will and ego independence, even 'authenticity.' You think that you are acting of your own volition and in your best interest, when you are merely reacting to someone else. We've all uttered (or at least thought) the most ironic of all statements, 'You're not going to bring me down!' As long as you're in this reactive mode, you are down -- reacting to negativity with negativity."

 

 

 

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28 May 2008

Brand Timeline Portrait (R)

Following Jane's lead, I'm blogging the (visible) brands I use today:

 

 

7:15-7:45 a.m. 

Getting up, getting ready ... Zadro is the Shower Bug I listen to in the shower.

I'll note only this first use of Quilted Northern ...

 

 

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7:45 a.m.

Getting dressed ... socks and necklace don't seem to have a brand on them ...

 

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8:00 a.m. - 9:45 a.m.

What's happening in the virtual world?

 

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8:15 a.m.

Dog feeding and cooking rice for future dog meals ...

 

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8:45 a.m.

Feeding me, vitamins (some are not branded), cleaning up ...

 

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9:45 a.m.

Going out -- need jacket, gum, shoes, and a treat for the dog ...

 

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11:00 a.m.

Returning-home treat for the dog ...

 

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11:00 - 11:52 a.m.

Now what's happening in the virtual world?

 

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11:52 a.m.

Going out again for a walk ...

 

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12:05 p.m.

Got a phone call while walking ...

 

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1:00 - 1:30 p.m.

Home and reconnecting ...

 

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1:27 p.m.

Water plus tonic water ... Lunch was leftovers in a non-brand plastic container, so no brands to record. Then in the garden.

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1:50 - 2:00 p.m.

Playing with the dog ...

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2 - 2:30 p.m.

Working out ... weights don't seem to be branded ...

 

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2:52 p.m.

 

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3:00 -  3:40 p.m.

Watched taped "Workout" and blogged, read online, etc. ...

 

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4:50 p.m.

Did dishes. Oh joy. (Swept earlier, but no brand names on broom or dustpan.)

 

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5:15-5:30 p.m.

Made cornbread to accompany leftovers for dinner. Most cornbread ingredients not name-brand.

 

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5:35-6:10 p.m.

Reading the paper online and doing email as cornbread cooks and before heating up leftovers ....

 

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5:42 p.m.

Dog eats again.

 

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6:15-6:55 p.m.

Dinner (leftovers, cornbread, and half of Christmas beer) and TV. Dog goes out.

 

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7:00 - 9:30 p.m.

Reading. Drinking tea. One phone call.

 

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9:55 p.m.

Dog to bed.

 

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10:00 p.m.

 Evening ablutions.

 

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13 April 2008

Correlation between Rainfall and Witch Killings

6b3a215e60a7faf57ce5a5776359a763.jpgNicholas Kristof's column in the NYT today -- "Extended Forecast: Bloodshed" -- connects the killing of witches with the environmental affects of climate change:

 

"Here’s a forecast for a particularly bizarre consequence of climate change: more executions of witches.  As we pump out greenhouse gases, most of the discussion focuses on direct consequences like rising seas or aggravated hurricanes. But the indirect social and political impact in poor countries may be even more far-reaching, including upheavals and civil wars -- and even more witches hacked to death with machetes.

 

"In rural Tanzania, murders of elderly women accused of witchcraft are a very common form of homicide. And when Tanzania suffers unusual rainfall -- either drought or flooding -- witch-killings double, according to research by Edward Miguel, an economist at the University of California, Berkeley.

 

"'In bad years, the killings explode,' Professor Miguel said. He believes that if climate change causes more drought years in Tanzania, the result will be more elderly women executed there and in other poor countries that still commonly attack supposed witches."

 

 

Kristof also looks at the strong relationship between economic hard times and lynchings, civil wars, and other forms of  violence against 'the other' who is judged to have caused the hardship.

 

 

 

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05 April 2008

Money Woes - Profiles of Real People

This series at CNN Money, which presents more than 50 brief, first-person profiles of individuals and families struggling financially with job loss, downsizing, reduced home values, student loans, gas and food prices, etc., is enlightening and disheartening at the same time. I empathised with the stories of many folks; this one really speaks to me.

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24 March 2008

The Three Trillion Dollar War

If you're looking for a 15-minute detailed summary of how the U.S. is spending three trillion dollars on the war in Iraq, listen to budget expert and former U.S. Asst. Secretary of Commerce Linda Bilmes giving a clear, careful outline of the costs in the first half of this Commonwealth Club of California presentation on "Globalization and the Three Trillion Dollar War." Following Bilmes at the podium is Nobel Prize-winning economist Joseph Stiglitz talking about the benefits vs. the costs.

 

More, in response to the book by Bilmes and Stiglitz on the same topic, The Three Trillion Dollar War: The True Cost of the Iraq Conflict, from Salon, Times Online, The Economist.

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10 March 2008

Waste

IRS Spends Millions to Tell You the Check is Almost in the Mail

 

Al Tompkins at Poynter Online reports on The Associated Press story:


"'At a cost of nearly $42 million, the IRS wants you to know: Your check is almost in the mail.

"'The Internal Revenue Service is spending the money on letters to alert taxpayers to expect rebate checks as part of the economic stimulus plan.

"'The notices are going out this month to an estimated 130 million households who filed returns for the 2006 tax year, at a cost of $41.8 million, IRS spokesman John Lipold confirmed.

"'That works out to about 32 cents to print, process and mail each letter. ...'"

 

"Why spend this money? The story quoted Keith Hennessey, director of the president's National Economic Council:

 

"'"Any time you do something as a government tens of millions of times, there is ample room for people to get confused. And so if you're going to have tens of millions of taxpayers getting checks, you want to get the information out so that you have as few people as possible confused about what's happening, they understand what's coming, and it reduces the number of incoming requests that IRS and Treasury have to figure out how to deal with it," said Hennessey.'"

 

 

If we take the NEC president's explanation at face value (some don't), the rationale seems vague and flawed to me. I'd like to know how many people don't already know they're going to get a "stimulus plan" check, how many people would be confused if they got a check from the IRS that, say, included a slip of paper in that envelope explaining it, and how many people who don't know and who would be confused to receive the check will actually open, read and understand the pre-explanation of the check. (To answer the first unknown, there's probably a Pew or Gallup poll out there that's already got the numbers. An ABC poll conducted a month ago asked whether people think the stimulus plan rebate is a good idea or not.)

 

Would it cost more or less than $42 million for the IRS and/or Treasury to ad